Happy Birthday To Me!
I have to say I had a wonderful weekend and birthday. Had friends come down from Virginia Beach and take Lora and I to a concert, got to go golfing on Saturday AND Sunday (for free no less), got taken out to dinner for all-you-can-eat shrimp at Red Lobster, got a new bike (first time I've had my own bike since my last new bike got stolen in college!), had the church sing "Happy Birthday" to me on Sunday and surprise me with cake, and got great cards from my kids - like this one.
I wasn't the only one who had a birthday though...Champ turned 7 on Thursday and had an army party. All that means is that we gave "violent" weapons to our children and other children who came over to play. And you know what? That makes me a good dad, not some silly, hand-wringing parent who thinks their kid will grow up to be a mass-murderer because they play with guns. Just look at Hannah and the dagger in her mouth - does she look like a killer to you?
9 comments:
ooooh, happy birthday to you!!!
and...
colten would SO have been all over that army party....VERY cool.
tell lora i owe her a long email, so much crazy-ness going on here....
we miss you guys!!!
erika
ps. you know we love discovery church BEST of all! ;)
i cant get over how MUCH sarah looks like lora!!
JAS!!! Hope you got my birthday text! If not HAPPY BIRTHDAY. And can I just say the kids have grown so much. My best friend is so cute, both of them. But I do agree with Sean, Sarah looks so much like Lora. Miss you guys TONS! Tell Champ I said Happy Late Birthday. Hope to be able to come up soon and see you guys!
LOVE YA,
MEG
Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday, Dear Jason, Happy Birthday to you!!!!!!!!!
Love,
Val
Okay, I'll be the voice of dissention.
In general, we haven't allowed Abbey to play with knives and guns. Not because we thought that it would turn her into a mass murderer or anything like that- it was just a choice we made when she was younger that we have relaxed on a bit now that she has gotten older.
I'm wondering why you would make the "That makes me a..., ...not some" comment. Makes me wonder if someone had a differing viewpoint from yours. Every parent has to make their own best judgement for their kids, and in most cases, their right to make those decisions should be respected- as should yours. Of course, I could be reading too much into what you wrote.
For the record, if we were there and Abbey had been invited, I wouldn't have had a problem with her participating. I also would have a problem with someone choosing not to.
By the way, giving them "violent weapons" didn't make you a good dad, just like denying them the weapons wouldn
t have made you a bad dad. What DOES make you a REALLY GOOD dad is that you gave your son a party built around something he enjoys, and MORE IMPORTANTLY, you took an active role in the party instead of just giving them the toys and saying "you kids go play out back". You are definitely a good dad.
Man! My fingers are cramping.
Can I still come up?
OOPS! I meant to say
"I also would NOT have a problem with someone choosing not to.
Jim, hope your fingers don't fall off. And yeah, reading a lot into it. Let me just say though that since time practically began, boys have played with weapons, played cowboys and Indians, cops and robbers or some other "violent" game. I just think it's kinda silly to withhold imagination options of good vs evil from little kids. Do it if you want or think it's right, but I think it's silly.
And yes, you can still come up.
So how is allowing your children to play with symbols of violent weapons NOT a poop brownie?
Gratuitous sex, even just implied, using God's name as a curse, even once - they're always wrong. A gun is neutral can be used for good (to protect, to hunt for food) or evil (to take an innocent life, terrorize or inflict harm). Playing with them is most often a battle of good vs evil and even kids know that the "bad" guys either need to stop being bad or the "good" guys need to do something about it. If "good" winning out over "bad" makes playing with weapons poop, I guess I'm constipated cause I don't see it. I'm still eating these brownies.
Note that my original post has a bit of a sarcastic flavor to it.
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