Thinking Out Loud

More marriage stories were told today and I still can't figure out why it's for some people it's so darn easy to just throw in the towel. But there's something I've thought of that might help stem the tide of marital mess-ups. Don't know what to call it, but it's basically a recovery center where men who are willing to work on their marriages would move into for a term (6 months - year). While they were there, they'd live rent free so the temporary separation wouldn't be a financial burden and add to whatever problems already exist in the marriage. Everyone would meet with a personal mentor/coach throughout their stay as well as spending some time going through personal counseling to work on their own issues. After a few months, joint counseling would be provided so the husband and wife can work together on their issues with the ultimate goal being the restoration of their marriage and a reconciled relationship. That's it in a nutshell.

Would it work? Only if the guys there were willing to work themselves. Like I said yesterday, marriage is just plain hard work - no way around it. It's just so frustrating to hear different people (both men and women) saying that they're getting a divorce. What a bunch of self-centered, whiny quitters! Some might say, but my husband's cheating on me....or....my wife only spends time with the kids and my money, but doesn't give a rip about me and you may be right. But let's be honest...nobody held a gun to your head when you said "I do" and this is just that "worse" part of "for better or worse".

I'm not saying divorce is never warranted, but it shouldn't be used so often or so easily. And I'm certainly not saying that if you've been divorced, you're a loser. I am however saying that almost always, divorce is the easier way out and nobody said marriage or life was supposed to be easy.